Some brilliant points on here. I went through a break-up last summer and although it was incredibly sad and painful. I felt I handled it so much better than all my other break-ups including my divorce. It has taken for me to be 45 to get to that point of knowing. It doesn't make it easier when a relationship ends but I know I can move through that healing much more focused on me and not them. Thanks Sara x
My husband and I separated last year and we have a daughter together so this has felt hugely different to any other break up I’ve been through as it’s not as if we can cut ties and never talk or see each other again. We’ve been working on our communication more now than we did when we were together!
All of these points you’ve made have been so important for us to implement for the sake of our daughter (which has somehow made it easier to have her as the shared interest, more so that our marriage).
But even for people without children, getting closure through communication and allowing some time to pass is so vital to be able to move to forward 🤍
All of these points are what I and most have had to learn the hard way. Thank you for writing this and I hope there’s a solid young audience who take your words on board. Mental health professionals and writers like you are why there’s hope for humanity.
Can you speak to communication after a breakup? Ours was amicable-ish— long distance and life situations and various things. But by the end I knew it would be too hard for me to communicate (I instigated the breakup, but he had moved, etc.) I said that we shouldn’t talk, and should just assume we were both sad and should talk to others about that, or else it would be too hard/confusing. He is following that boundary (3 months in), but it's sad + strange to cut someone out, but I’m not sure how else to do it….
Some brilliant points on here. I went through a break-up last summer and although it was incredibly sad and painful. I felt I handled it so much better than all my other break-ups including my divorce. It has taken for me to be 45 to get to that point of knowing. It doesn't make it easier when a relationship ends but I know I can move through that healing much more focused on me and not them. Thanks Sara x
My husband and I separated last year and we have a daughter together so this has felt hugely different to any other break up I’ve been through as it’s not as if we can cut ties and never talk or see each other again. We’ve been working on our communication more now than we did when we were together!
All of these points you’ve made have been so important for us to implement for the sake of our daughter (which has somehow made it easier to have her as the shared interest, more so that our marriage).
But even for people without children, getting closure through communication and allowing some time to pass is so vital to be able to move to forward 🤍
All of these points are what I and most have had to learn the hard way. Thank you for writing this and I hope there’s a solid young audience who take your words on board. Mental health professionals and writers like you are why there’s hope for humanity.
Can you speak to communication after a breakup? Ours was amicable-ish— long distance and life situations and various things. But by the end I knew it would be too hard for me to communicate (I instigated the breakup, but he had moved, etc.) I said that we shouldn’t talk, and should just assume we were both sad and should talk to others about that, or else it would be too hard/confusing. He is following that boundary (3 months in), but it's sad + strange to cut someone out, but I’m not sure how else to do it….