We all know that crumbs aren’t enough for a meal – or even an adequate snack. And yet, it’s what we often offer those closest to us. Without realizing it, we starve one another by giving the bare minimum, or even less. If you are wondering why your relationship seems to be suffering, the intimacy is withering, and your connection with your partner has decreased, this is probably it.
What I like about this piece (and something I've tried to remind myself in my own relationship), is that a "meal" doesn't necessarily have to be something wild - like rock climbing, going to an escape room, a winery tour. They can be something really simplistic. My partner and I both like cooking, so finding something to cook (sometimes tricky!) and cooking together is often a really nice one (pardon the meal pun).
I'm curious to hear your thoughts on...I feel like some people are more giving or more energised when it comes to coming up with "meal" ideas.
This is such a great point –– thanks for adding to the discussion. I don't think a full meal has to be a big or grandiose action (nor is that a sustainable way of providing a "meal"). I think a "full meal" is about meeting needs and connecting with our significant other. I love the cooking idea!! It's such a beautiful way to do something together, learn something together (a new recipie), spend quality time together AND chat!
I am not suggesting people can't or shouldn't go rock climbing or wine tasting but "meals" need to become part of our daily routine. These special occasions seem more like dessert! (I am really not letting go of this metaphor haha)
What I like about this piece (and something I've tried to remind myself in my own relationship), is that a "meal" doesn't necessarily have to be something wild - like rock climbing, going to an escape room, a winery tour. They can be something really simplistic. My partner and I both like cooking, so finding something to cook (sometimes tricky!) and cooking together is often a really nice one (pardon the meal pun).
I'm curious to hear your thoughts on...I feel like some people are more giving or more energised when it comes to coming up with "meal" ideas.
This is such a great point –– thanks for adding to the discussion. I don't think a full meal has to be a big or grandiose action (nor is that a sustainable way of providing a "meal"). I think a "full meal" is about meeting needs and connecting with our significant other. I love the cooking idea!! It's such a beautiful way to do something together, learn something together (a new recipie), spend quality time together AND chat!
I am not suggesting people can't or shouldn't go rock climbing or wine tasting but "meals" need to become part of our daily routine. These special occasions seem more like dessert! (I am really not letting go of this metaphor haha)
Thank you for the suggestion using the OURS cards. Great communication starter.
You're welcome! I hope you like it! I generally love communication based card games.
What a stunning title and so important to remember! Thank you for the 'meal' suggestions!
I am so glad you enjoyed the read! Thanks for being here.
The OURS recommendation was stellar!!! Can’t wait to try it with my partner. Thank you!
Oh, I am so glad! Let me know how you like it!
so much of love, i think, is listening curiously, and earnestly, and making those we love feel not just looked at, but Seen.
asking questions, and being being genuinely enthusiastic, even more a fleeting moment, can make our partners/lovers/allies feel beyond held.
thank you for the Words.
Well said, thank you so much for sharing!
Would love for you to share some of your insights with my Substack community, if it interested you.