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I love this post as I was in this headspace last year. My other tip was I let myself only think about him for a short period of time, say an hour and that was all I was allowed. Then I had to move on or do something else. I’m sure this will help many people 🩷

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Thank you so much for sharing! YES! great tip <3

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I really appreciated this post! I think the internal judgement of "I shouldn't be thinking about him" really doesn't help me let go. I hope I can give myself the grace and patience (so hard!) to understand that this will take its own time, and that I can also take actions to move forward.

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Love this!! Yes, we are so hard on ourselves. Let's start accepting where we are at and being there for ourselves. The last thing we need while grieving is someone judging or yelling at us.

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I love love the point made in tip number three. Stop thinking about something that we were always encourage to think about until now. That has so many macro implications in so many facets of our life. Beautiful.

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I am so glad it resonates <3 It is something that has really helped me in the past.

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I think, if you can share and unpack that idea, that would be so helpful for so many of us caught up in frameworks that are so subliminally stifling.

Thanks for everything

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The title of this post very much caught my eye… I’m separated from my husband and we have a daughter together so I can’t simply cut him off or forget about him. I see him at least once a week. But this doesn’t seem to be the issue… it’s that I am constantly thinking about him and questioning and doubting my decision to leave. He is continuing to make this harder by asking to try again and my head is in a spin! I so wish I could stop thinking about my ex and move forward by never speaking to him again… but I’m going to need to find a way to move on alongside him.

Thank you for sharing these tips Sara

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Thank you for sharing your experience. It sounds like you know what you want (even if it's not easy!) <3

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