I think the way swedes split and I find interesting not privacy and secrecy, but personal vs private. People usually say, it's nice to be personal at work, but you don't need to be private. I think that's the way. Secrecy on the other hand feels a bit of a spy trade though.
I've been thinking about this a lot in regards to my young adult and older teen. As they build their young adult lives there are things they won't want to share with me out of privacy and I'm fine with that.
But keeping something from me and my husband (as their parents) out of secrecy could damage the relationship. I'm doing my best to be open and available when they want to talk but also not pressuring them to tell me everything. It's definitely a complicated line to walk. We are all learning what works for each of us.
I think the way swedes split and I find interesting not privacy and secrecy, but personal vs private. People usually say, it's nice to be personal at work, but you don't need to be private. I think that's the way. Secrecy on the other hand feels a bit of a spy trade though.
I've been thinking about this a lot in regards to my young adult and older teen. As they build their young adult lives there are things they won't want to share with me out of privacy and I'm fine with that.
But keeping something from me and my husband (as their parents) out of secrecy could damage the relationship. I'm doing my best to be open and available when they want to talk but also not pressuring them to tell me everything. It's definitely a complicated line to walk. We are all learning what works for each of us.