Another note to say the Universe was calling. I'm quitting my job today after weeks (no, months...) of deliberation and questioning. I don't have another job lined up. I'm moving in a completely different direction, and I don't know how it's all going to play out. I realized I was afraid to just QUIT and allow myself to move on! So, here we are. I quit on purpose. I'm scared, and everything is going to be ok. I've got resources, a sprinkle of ambition and supporting friends and family. Maybe now is my chance to do what I didn't get to do when I was young and hustling; BREATHE. Thanks for the message, Sara.
I can't believe this landed at this very moment. My ex just came by to drop off a shared dog and then immediately afterward I opened my computer to I read this and I am now considering: why do I have such a tough time letting go? And then I heard the voice of my father accusing me of being a quitter. I've used holding on to things that no longer serve as a badge of honor. Thank you for this re-orientation, Sara.
Beautifully written. The metaphors are both original and memorable, transforming quitting from something we fear into something we can see as a conscious act of wisdom. Reframing it as authorship rather than failure is a powerful reminder that growth often comes not from holding on, but from knowing what no longer belongs in our story🕷️
The idea that holding on is the only virtue shows up in relationships more than anywhere else, and what you’ve named about staying equaling love and leaving equaling failure gets so deeply embedded that people hold onto things long past the point where it’s serving anyone, and the reframe from endurance as virtue to authorship as agency changes everything about how someone can make a conscious choice rather than outlast the discomfort.
Another note to say the Universe was calling. I'm quitting my job today after weeks (no, months...) of deliberation and questioning. I don't have another job lined up. I'm moving in a completely different direction, and I don't know how it's all going to play out. I realized I was afraid to just QUIT and allow myself to move on! So, here we are. I quit on purpose. I'm scared, and everything is going to be ok. I've got resources, a sprinkle of ambition and supporting friends and family. Maybe now is my chance to do what I didn't get to do when I was young and hustling; BREATHE. Thanks for the message, Sara.
I can't believe this landed at this very moment. My ex just came by to drop off a shared dog and then immediately afterward I opened my computer to I read this and I am now considering: why do I have such a tough time letting go? And then I heard the voice of my father accusing me of being a quitter. I've used holding on to things that no longer serve as a badge of honor. Thank you for this re-orientation, Sara.
Beautifully written. The metaphors are both original and memorable, transforming quitting from something we fear into something we can see as a conscious act of wisdom. Reframing it as authorship rather than failure is a powerful reminder that growth often comes not from holding on, but from knowing what no longer belongs in our story🕷️
The idea that holding on is the only virtue shows up in relationships more than anywhere else, and what you’ve named about staying equaling love and leaving equaling failure gets so deeply embedded that people hold onto things long past the point where it’s serving anyone, and the reframe from endurance as virtue to authorship as agency changes everything about how someone can make a conscious choice rather than outlast the discomfort.