How many times will you repeat the pattern?

(journaling prompts included)

In life, we either learn or repeat. And, just to make things a little more painful, some lessons demand to be learned more than once (since knowing better doesn’t always mean doing better—not right away).

Why? Because change isn’t a lightning bolt—it’s more like a slow, awkward dance between clarity and courage. You don’t just wake up one day, throw on your “new me” outfit, and suddenly stop texting the person who’s clearly bad for your nervous system. (If only.)

Most of us don’t change because we should. We change because we have to.
Because the pattern gets so painful, so obvious, so exhausting, that we finally whisper: "Okay… maybe this isn’t working."

I’ve had to check myself more times than I can count:
Sara, how many more times are you going to have the same argument and expect a different ending? How many more Sunday nights are you going to scramble because you didn’t prep? How many more times will you eat those dry crackers and call it “dinner”? How many more chances does that person get to hurt you?

At the end of the day, it is a choice. And if we’re being honest, many of us secretly hope life will decide for us—because choosing means owning the consequences. And that’s a heavy crown to wear.

So here’s your invitation to check in:
What’s one pattern you’re stuck in?
How many more loops are you willing to do?
And what’s really getting in the way of letting it go?

No pressure. This isn’t guilt-tripping disguised as ‘call to action.’ I’m not trying to make you rush into anything. It’s just a gentle nudge to notice what’s shaping your life—so that, when you’re ready, you can choose authenticity and fulfillment instead.

Because doing the same thing over and over while hoping it magically changes?
We’ve all been there.
But you don’t have to stay there.